Self-discipline is extremely vital for our wellbeing because we need to be in control of our behaviors and our lives to achieve our goals.
A recent study found that self-discipline is a better predictor of happiness and goal attainment than most other personal traits that were studied. It makes sense, people who lack discipline tend to develop different kinds of poor habits, obsessions, fears, and addictions. Having self-discipline keeps you focused on your goals and guides you on the right path.
How to Develop Your Self-Discipline
To develop self-discipline, you must first identify which areas need to be kept in check. A lot of common areas where people feel they need are things such as bad eating habits, bad drinking habits, work life, shopping addictions, gambling, smoking, and obsessive behaviors.
To develop self-discipline also means first to identify what emotions you’re lacking control of. This could be unhappiness, anger, fear, frustration or even dissatisfaction. We often let these emotions take over our thoughts and actions, but we don’t realize that we can prevent these emotions from taking control by identifying the thoughts that that push us towards adopting our uncontrolled behavior.
According to Martin Meadows’ book ‘How To Build Self-Discipline’, it is extremely hard to rid of bad habits, and that is why we need to monitor our thoughts and be in control of our actions. He says that meditation is also a good way to stay focused on your goal and not become distracted easily, and that is how you develop self-control too. It’s a highly entertaining book and also includes an audio version so you can listen while driving or doing your chores.
During the day, at least, several times, especially when you think you need to show that you are in control of your life and your behavior, remind yourself of the following things:
- I’m in charge of my own actions
- Self-control is enjoyable and relaxing
- I am in control of my own thoughts and emotions
- I am in control of my reactions
- I am in control of myself and my life
Visualizing yourself is also another way to develop self-discipline. When you visualize how you would instantly react or respond to a certain situation or something put in front of you, in a negative manner, and then visualize yourself in that same situation but with a more calm and controlled manner, it will help you to choose gradually the calmer demeanor when the time comes.
Once you’ve mastered the art of self-discipline, you will soon realize how it benefits your life. Having self-control means having a sense of balance in life. You will become more in control of your moods and emotions. When you develop self-discipline, you become and feel more confident and gain self-esteem . Self-control also helps you feel independent. Overall, you become a more trustworthy and responsible person who knows exactly where you are going and what you need to do in order to succeed.
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Self-discipline is a pattern of behavior where you choose to do what you know you should do, rather than what you want to do. It’s the inner power that pushes you to get out of bed to exercise rather than sleeping in. It is the assertion of willpower over more basic desires and is synonymous with self-control.
It includes having the personal initiative to get started and the stamina to persevere. Being disciplined gives you the strength to withstand hardships and difficulties, whether physical, emotional or mental. It allows forgoing immediate satisfaction, in order to gain something better, but which requires effort and time.
Discipline is one of the cornerstones to living a successful and fulfilling life and something we should all strive to master.
Benefits of becoming a disciplined person
When you are consistent in doing the things you know you should do, when you know you should do them, here are the benefits you will enjoy:
- You will achieve your goals. When you are consistent in doing the things you know you should do, your odds of achieving your goals will be dramatically increased.
- Your self-esteem will soar. Every time you push yourself to do something you know you should do, you are building your self-esteem.
- People’s respect for you will grow. This includes everyone from your spouse to your employer who witnesses your efforts.
- You will influence the lives of others. Every good and right thing you do, influences the lives of those who are watching and can have a ripple effect on future generations.
- You will see greater success in all areas of your life. Jim Rohn said, “For every disciplined effort there is a multiple return.” Think about it.
- You will enjoy a more rewarding and satisfying life.
Downside of lacking discipline
When you consistently neglect to do the things you know you should do, when they should be done, here’s the downside:
- You won’t achieve your goals. I’ve never met anyone who achieved any worthwhile goal who lacked discipline.
- You won’t feel good about yourself. No matter how hard you try to justify your actions, you know what’s right and wrong. Lying to yourself only makes it worse.
- You’ll lose the respect of those who are dependent upon your actions.
Making the decision to become a disciplined person may prove to be one of the most important decisions you make because of its powerful influence on every part of your life.
A commitment to discipline
The first step in becoming a disciplined person is to make a commitment to yourself that from this day forward you are going to do the things you know you should do, when you should do them. As part of this commitment, you cannot allow yourself to make excuses or justify not doing what you should do.
If you struggle with discipline, start small. It’s how we all got started. Start by taking out the overflowing garbage, answering an email, changing the light bulb, or cleaning your bathroom. Start today doing all the little things you know you should do, but don’t feel like doing.
When you need to do things that make you uncomfortable, remember the wise words of leadership expert Dr. John Maxwell who said, “If we’re growing, we’re always going to be out of our comfort zone.”
When things come up that are scary, heed the experience of Dale Carnegie who said, “Do the thing you fear to do and keep on doing it… that is the quickest and surest way ever yet discovered to conquer fear.”
Becoming a discipline person will likely be the hardest thing you do, but it can also become the most rewarding. All successes in every part of your life are built on the foundation of discipline.
I want to challenge you to start doing the little things you know you should do. As you do, recognize yourself for each thing you do. With constant awareness and sustained effort you can actually train yourself to become disciplined.
This is not the first time I have blogged on the importance of discipline, and it won’t be the last. Of the over 1000 little things on my list, nothing has a higher dollar value to the market than discipline.
Discipline is one of the key differentiators separating those who live successful and fulfilling lives from those who don’t.
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